Yes and i regret that a lot, every single day i wake up, this is the first thing on my mindu2026worst part is that i am trapped in this marriage because of the female centric laws in my county.I am a 31 yr old guy working with in a PSU. Two years back i married this beautiful girl from my hometown who was working in the IT industry. Her father is a very powerful bureaucrat while my father is a retired govt. officer.There were differences in family values and upbringing in our families, but due to the pressure of my family i gave in and yes now i realise that was the biggest mistake of my life and one that cant be undone now.Since the girls family is extremely affluent, the marriage was a lavish affair, though there were no dowry asked as i had already purchased every thing already well before my marriage.2 months into our marriage, we went for a lavish honeymoon in Europe which costed me a bomb, but since i like travelling and my father gave me 4 Lakhs for same, i was happy about the whole thing.In Europe on day 1 only, my purse was stolen which was having all debit/credit cards and i was left at the mercy of my wifeu2019s debit cards. This was the first time i saw a different kind of attitude in her eyes on matters of money. Eventually, we swiped around Rs. 22K from her ATM. Later i could use online banking to transfer money from my account into hers and we swiped around Rs.60K from her ATM after i transferred the same from my account into hers. All other expenses like hotel/flights/Eurail etc i had already taken care while in India, so we enjoyed a lot..Life was all rosy then barring her occasional mood swings.My parents lived in a different city so they used to come to visit us every 3u20134 months. During one such visit, my wife (lets call her A) fought with me asking me to break all my relations from my mother. I was stunned at the suddenness of it and told her that this is not happening and both of you would have to live together. Till then ( and even today) she has had no confrontation with my mom, directly or indirectly. It was during this fight only, she told me that they have video proof against my mother accepting dowry from her parents. I was totally unaware of this.when i inquired about the same from my mother, i came to know that the payment for venue/ catering etc was done by my mother and they had given that amount to my mother in their house as her mother feared carrying all that money by her own. ( Now, it may sound unbelievable at first, but now that i have come to understand my sadist and manipulative MIL, i know it was easy for her to dupe may parents in all her flowery language and they made a video of it).I fail to understand who makes such videos even before a marriage is yet to startu2026.Anyhow, we moved ahead after that fightu2026with each passing day i realised that my wife and all her family especially my MIL are extremely money centric and the only thing important in their lives is how many FDs, RDs, bonds and shares etc they have. I was earning three times my wife but was made to feel a lowborn before her as she was saving almost her entire salary and i was saving a very little part. This was because i was taking care of my retired parents, my younger brotheru2019s studies and our own household expenses in addition to gifting jewelry etc to my wife on every possible occasion while she continued to live like as if it was only my responsibility to take care of all expenses. I never asked for any part of her salary and her love for money which borders crazyness, made sure that i didnt.To be fair, i also think that you should save nicely and spend wisely, but only saving at the cost of basic lifeu2019s necessities is something i cant swallow.As if this was not enough, she began pestering me to purchase a house in our city. We searched for six months for a decent house, but buying a house in a city as costly as ours, even after i had decided to take loan from my company and additional second charge loan from a bank, was becoming difficult. So after six months i gave up and said lets look for a house in Noida. The next day my MIL calls me saying that she can pitch in around 15L on a returnable loan basis, but i should buy a house in our city only. I resisted the same, but finally after a lot of persuasion i agreed. ( i was taunted that i had no intention of buying house in this city, in the first place and all the while i was looking for a house in Noida as it was nearer to my hometown) . To be fair again, since this was a returnable loan and they are multi millionaires, i had no major issue.Finally we bought a house and this is the second mistake that i have done, as i had to take a loan worth almost Rs. 70L besides loan from my inlaws. Further, due to this loan i am now a captive of my company, as i can not leave my company before repaying this loan.Anyhow, she also switched 2 companies and was now getting a good pay package and we were doing fine considering that she was paying 15K as partial EMI of one of my loans. This we had agreed before.While all this was happening, we were trying for a baby all along but pregnancy was not happening. Both of us got tested and were medically fit, but still pregnancy was not happening. The doctors advised her not to take undue stress, as it was not even two years into our marriage and both of us were perfectly fine, but she used to cry day in and day out for the same and i used to be her anchor support during all her mood swings/depressions arising out of this issue.My parents were also supportive but somehow my MIL was not at all supportive of her own daughter. She used to go to some pandit, tantrik, baba kinds for the same and used to give her a lot of stress on this topic. I was not particularly comfortable discussing all this with my MIL and told her many a times to ask MIL to relax and give time. Once i came to know, that my MIL has told my mother that the doctors had detected some problem in me in this context, but after my wife gave me some home made medicine on her motheru2019s advice, i became healthy in just one monthu2026.I was shocked to the core and confronted my wife who flatly refused but later told me that her mother had some misunderstandings, so she said like thisu2026..I was like what bullshit is this????Anyways, all the fights we had all these two years were mostly about money, that why i am not saving, why i am spending money on my younger brother, why may parents cant manage in their pensions etcu2026.I tried to make her understand my view point but she never listened. And the frequency of these fights was like every 4u20135 days and lasting for like 2u20133 days during which she used to give me silent treatments.The recent thaw in our relations came when i got transferred to a different location. Coincidentally, my brothers bachelors also completed in April and now he has to go for job. It is very much obvious that my brother would either stay in his current city or go to some metro for a job, but she was getting increasingly nervous that my brother might come to the new location with us. So, she started saying nice things me to me for days at length regarding we should something about my brother and blah blahu2026Then one fine day her mother calls me and discusses with me about how we are being irresponsible for my brother and that we should open some kind of a small shop for him in our hometown so that he can sustain his livingu2026i was like why is she talking about him in this manner and what problem do they have with himu2026but i didnt say anything to her.Next my wife tells me that she is not going to my new location, if my brother is coming thereu2026.i was again shockedu2026my brother was anyways not coming to the new city but how can her mother decide that?So she picks up this fight with me and silent treatment starts againu2024 In between i went to my hometown for a friends marriage and her mother gives me call asking what have we decided about my brotheru2026i curtly told her that we will see..she yells at me that i would have to tell her because it affects her daughters life alsou2026.i am like why are they behaving in such a mad manner.Exactly 15 minutes after this call, i get another call from my wife saying that my younger brother has asked her to leave our houseu2026.i was getting mad by this point, so i call up my brother to ask what happened. He told me that my wife came out of her room suddenly and started shouting on him that he is living on her husbandu2019s money and he needs to packup and leave. When i asked my wife if this true, she says yes it is and she cant bear to live with my brother under the same roof.From the sequence it was clear that when her mother failed in convincing me to leave my brother, she instigated her daughter to deliberately pick up a fight with my brother so he realises that he is not welcome thereu2026Just to give a background, het mother has 2 sisters, and all the three sistersu2019s husbands have complicated relationships with their paternal families. My MIL wants to replicate the same model in my family and my brother is just a pawn in this game. Today, its my brother and six months later it would be my parents.Anyways, This fights was like 3 days back. Today i.e on 26.05.2017, i called my wife and said that my brother would not come with us to the new city but in addition her mother would also be unwelcome in my house and if she comes, i would be staying in a hotel during all this time. My wife told me that her mother would come whenever she feels like and i can not dictate where she is welcome or not. I can not understand these double standards!!! In addition, she tells me that if ever i try to say anything against her mother, she would implicate me in false dowry/marital rape/ etc kind of case. And considering that her father is a very powerful bureaucrat, i know we wouldnt stand a chance against themu2026She swore that her mother has even consulted a lawyer in this case. Further, i work in a govt. job, and 2 days in lockup would lead to automatic suspension of my govt. job. Please note that mine is a very coveted govt. and i cant take that risk.As of now, i am clueless, if this fight is actually worth it and whether i can live with this monster for my entire life or whether i should end my life, so that everyone else is happy, but i cant do that too for the sake of my old parentsu2026My head is continuously paining due to all the stress this is causing me, while my wife is partying with her friends and telling me that she is staying late in office due to office work pressure. Can you believe, every time she is saying she is stuck up late in office, her google map position tells me the address of some restaurent / disc/pub .PS:My wife messaged me before our fight today that she loves me( but cant stand my family) and i wonder if people do this to those they loveu2026
